Saturday Runs With Marathon Girl

I'm learning to love Saturdays again. Since Marathon Girl bought the running stroller, we've been able to run together on those days.

There's nothing I'd rather do with her.

Take this afternoon, for example. Blazing sun. Warm enough to wear a long sleeve t-shirt. We start running.

Usually we discuss how far we're going to run before we walk out the door.

Not today.

We just started running.

And it was one of those runs where you feel like running all day. Body feels good. Breathing well. Enough sun and blue sky you could almost forget it was February.

We decided to run a flexible loop that gives up the option to run three, four, or five miles.

We reached the three mile turnaround point. Marathon Girl looked at me. I could tell she wanted to continue.

"Keep running," I said.

Then the four mile turnaround point. I could tell Marathon Girl wanted to keep going. I nodded and we continued.

And as we ran those five miles I'd look over at Marathon Girl every so often and notice her perfect running form, her hair flailing behind her like corn silk, and a smile on her face.

Yeah, I love Saturdays.

Book Update

I've started writing a second book. Actually, I've just started writing the outline for a second book. It took me a couple of frustrating tries at writing the first chapter before I realized the need to write a little about the characters and a chapter by chapter outline before I start to write it. The nice thing about writing the memoir was I already knew how it started, ended, and everything that happened in between. But in order to write good fiction, I need to plan it out a little more. If all goes well, I'm hoping to have the book completed by the end of the year. Marketing my memoir to agents and publishers is going forward a little at a time. I have a few agents that are reading the first few chapters and/or a proposal for the book. Writing the proposal for the book was challenging but fun. The six years of marketing experience I acquired at my last job has come in handy. I've put together a marketing plan on how to promote the book once it's published.

One thing I've noticed about artists and writers in general is that though many of them are quite talented, most of them don't know how to promote and sell their work. Somehow they think the art should and sell itself. Most of the successful artists/writers are not only good at their craft but also very good at selling and marketing their work to their target audience. Marketing is one thing I wish I would have learned in college. Knowing how to marketing my writing might have jump started my writing career by a couple years.

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New episode of Lost tonight. I can already feel the pains of a two week new episode withdrawal subsiding.

Lesson Learned

The Super Bowl may not have been as close as I thought it was going to be but I sure called the reason why Pittsburgh would win. They were calm and collected the entire game. Even when they started slow, they kept with their game plan and bit by bit chewed up the Seahawks. Seattle, on the other hand, had some of the worst time management I've seen in a Super Bow. When it came to crunch time it looked like they looked confused and unsure of themselves when it mattered most.

But the party was fun and everyone seemed to enjoy themselves. Like usual, I ate way too much food - especially of my scrumptious chicken wings. It's nice to have a day when you can watch football and eat good food.

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Aidan is turning into a parrot. He'll mimic just about anything I say as he learns to string words together and form sentences. It's been a humbling experience as now I'm learning what an example I am to my son. The other day I was having a tough day. I went to through something in the garbage and missed. I made a growling sound (which if you listend real close would sound like a swear word) as I picked up the garbage and threw it in the trash. A second later I heard the same sound behind me and turned to see Aidan standing there with a smile on his face, obviously pleased that he can growl (read: swear under his breath) like daddy. Then he growled again, waiting for me to approve. (Yeah, I felt like an idiot right then.) So I'm learning to watch my language and actions more now that Aidan is all about doing things like Dad. Though far from perfect, I really don't want Aidan picking up on my bad habits.

Super Bowl XL: Seahawks vs. Steelers

Being from Washington State, Marathon Girl says we're rooting for Seattle in this year's Super Bowl. That's fine by me. I don't care about either team. So if Marathon Girl says we're pulling for Seattle, that's who I'll pull for. But I don't think Seattle will win. If I was a betting man, I'd put my money on Pittsburg. But I do think the game should be close and an enjoyable one to watch. Both teams have good QBs, RBs, and defenses and are evenly matched. However, I think Pittsburgh has more big game experience than Seattle. Watch that to pay off as the team is more cool and collected than Seattle during the game and is able to make the big plays when needed. Watch Pittsburg win the game with a last second field goal.

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I'm really looking forward to this Sunday. The popularity of my Super Bowl party has exploded this year. There could be upwards of 20-30 people in attendance. Our main concern is hoping we have enough food for everyone.

I've always been amazed at friends and family who have no interest in football whatsoever who will come to watch the game and socialize. Originally these parties started out more as a birthday party for me since my birthday and the Super Bowl were usually within a few days of each other and, occasionally, on the day of the big game. But lately it's become more of a big event for friends and family to gather and have an enjoyable evening together. And I think that's what I like most about my parties. They aren't so much about the game (unless Denver is playing) as they are the opportunity to have an enjoyable evening with those who I love.

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And a final football note to the Denver Broncos. Rumor has it you're looking at bringing in either Ricky Williams or Terrell Owens to join the team next year. My advice is this: Don't bring either of them on board. Both have huge egos could have a disruptive influence on the team that is known for working together instead of individual stars. Bringing either one of these people on board could cause more problems then they fix.

Marathon Girl is Super Woman

Marathon Girl has a nickname among some in the neighborhood. That nickname is Super Woman. A lot of this reputation comes from the fact that she runs all the time. Rain or shine, pregnant or not, and often pushing Aidan in a running stroller, Marathon Girl doesn't let anything stop her from running.

The few times I was able to run with her this summer, it seems like we always passed someone we knew who shouted to her "You're amazing!"

Now that we have two kids, running is a little more difficult. Of late Marathon Girl's waits until I come home after work before hitting the road. But depending on what happens during the day, running is not only possible. Sometimes she's exhausted from keeping up with the kids. Other days she's behind on things she wanted to get done and doesn't have time to run. If she could run in the middle of the day, it would be much more convenient.

To make this possible, we purchased a double-wide running stroller online.

Marathon Girl called this morning to say that the running stroller arrived. When I arrived home, the running stroller was fully assembled.

Tomorrow Marathon Girl goes for a run.

I'm wondering what her new nickname is going to be.

More Author Fraud?

L.A. Weekly has apparently uncovered another author whose memoirs are fake. This time though instead of making up certain events, a la James Frey, L.A. Weekly says the prize-winning Native American writer who calls himself Nasdijj is really Tim Barrus, a white writer of gay erotica. Whether or not these allegations are true, remains to be seen. L.A. Weekly's piece gives good reason to think Nasdijj is Barrus, but not as clear cut as the Smoking Gun's report on Frey. If the story is accurate, I think the publishing industry is going to have to do some due diligence when it comes to accepting memoirs. I've wondered if this controversy is going to affect my ability to sell my own memoir. I'm not worried about an agent or publisher doing some background work on mine to confirm the story for I have nothing to hide. My concern is that the publishing industry is going to stop accepting as many memoirs so they don't continually look like dopes when their celebrated authors turn out to be nothing more than frauds.

And not to beat this subject to death but apparently on today's Oprah Winfrey show Oprah is going to openly regret her phone call to Larry King in defense of James Frey and his highly embellished memoir A Million Little Pieces. According to those who have seen today's feed to stations, Oprah said "The truth matters. My judgment was clouded."

Two weeks ago I wrote that it was a bad idea for Oprah to defend a liar. I'm glad she's come to her senses.

Funerals Still Make Me Cry

I still have a hard time at funerals. Even when they're for those I barely know.

Like this weekend, for example. We went to a funereal for Julie's grandmother.

I can count on one hand the number of times I've talked to her.

For many years her mind has been gone. She doesn't know who you are, what day it is, or even where she is. One time she looked out the window and said it was the most beautiful November morning she had ever seen. She said this on a July afternoon.

So this last week I kept hinting to Julie that I didn't want to go. I told myself it was because I didn't know this woman that well and my time could be better spent watching the kids so she could enjoy the funeral and say goodbye to her grandmother.

But Saturday came and to the funeral we went. And I we were driving to the funeral I felt myself tearing up. I turned on the radio and listened to sports announcers analyze the upcoming Broncos Steelers game hoping to distract myself.

It didn't work.

I still had to fight back the tears.

So I flipped over to the FM band and tried to find some music that everyone would like. Thought the act of flipping through stations would distract me.

That didn't work either.

Tried talking to Julie about anything other than the funeral. Anything to take my mind of what was coming up.

Even that didn't work

And by the time we arrived at the church, it was taking all my concentration just to keep myself together.

And then once we walked in the door of the church, I lost it.

Needless to say, you don't really stand out when you're crying at a funeral. Aside from Julie's immediate family, I didn't know anyone there so most people just assumed I as crying for the deceased.

I guess I was, in a way.

Just not for the person everyone came to see.

Finally, just as the service started I was able to pull myself together and make sure Aidan behaved during the funeral. As I listened to people talk about this woman, I realized how little I knew about her. I didn't know she worked for an intelligence unit in World War II or that she was such a good teacher. It was a beautiful service and a fitting tribute to a remarkable woman.

And in the end I was glad I went.

Because life isn't about taking the easy way out. Often it's about taking on the difficult task or enduring the unbearable moment and coming through the whole situation a little bit stronger, and more grateful for what you do have.

I have no doubt there as the years pass there will be more funerals I'll need to attend.

And when it comes time for one of them, I'll be there.

No matter how difficult it might be.

Beyond Hitler's Grasp: The Heroic Rescue of Bulgaria's Jews

One of the forgotten stories of World War II is the heroism of Bulgarians in saving their Jewish population from Hitler's concentration camps. I first heard this story from an old man in Sofia ten years ago. At the time I had lived in Bulgaria six months and my langue skills weren't great. As I listened to an old man tell us how Bulgaria refused to send their Jewish population to Hitler's death camps, I thought I didn't understand everything he said correctly. If Bulgaria hadn't sent its Jewish population to Germany, how come I hadn't heard about it in school? Why was this remarkable story lost when people talked about the Holocaust.

Back in our apartment that evening my companion and I talked about what he had said. Neither of us had head of this story and we both wondered if the old man was getting a kick telling some outlandish story to naive Americans. I heard the story a few other times before I returned to the states. I never really doubted the story but wondered why in all the books and classes about World War II I had never head of about Bulgaria being the only country to not turn over its Jewish population to Germany.

After I returned home from the states I started reading Bulgarian history books. Most of these books confirmed the story that Bulgaria managed to save it's entire population of 50,000 Jews, but the details and events of exactly how that came about were lacking. Occasionally I'd search the Internet hoping to find some more information. (One of the more interesting ones was a site about Dimitar Peshiv, one of the key people in saving Bulgaria's Jews.) Most of the sites I found weren't that helpful.

Then by chance I stumbled across Beyond Hitler's Grasp: The Heroic Rescue of Bulgaria's Jews and I finally found the book that contained all the information and detail I've searched many years for. As a history book it is well written and fascinating to read how a country that was aligned with Germany, managed to save its entire Jewish population. (The book is hard to find. Amazon doesn't have any copies in stock buy does link to some resellers who carry the book.)

Compared to most countries in Europe at the time, there was little anti-Semitism in Bulgaria leading up to and during World War II. Bulgarian Jews were, for the most part, an integrated part of society. Despite this, the Bulgarian Parliament passed several anti-Jewish measures -- such as forcing them to wear yellow stars and register with the government -- to keep the Alliance with Germany intact. (For siding with German, Bulgaria was given Macedonia and Thracian part of Greece -- lands that Bulgaria lost after World War I and believed to be rightfully theirs.)

Eventually a few anti-Semitic leaders set up a mass deportation that would send all Bulgarian Jews to Poland and certain death. It was only with the profound effort of about 50 people that eventually the plan to deport Bulgarian Jews was stopped.

Though Bulgaria managed to save its Jewish population, it was still a difficult time for its Jewish citizens. After the deportation plan was foiled, most Jews were as day-laborers or sent to temporary camps inside Bulgaria. In some camps the Jews were treated well and in other camps they were not. And, unfortunately, Bulgaria's hands aren't totally clean of blood. Bulgaria did deport non-Bulgarian Jews from the territories it had annexed. Almost 12,000 Jews for Thrace and Macedonia were sent to their deaths in Poland and elsewhere.

What struck me most about the book was how few people intervened to stop the deportations. For some reason I had expected because there was little, if any, animosity toward the Jews, the people of Bulgaria would be the ones to demand that they not be deported. But even though most were against the measures taken, they were silent. And not knowing what it was like to live in Bulgaria during World War II, I'm not necessarily blaming them for their inaction. (For the book, it seemed like a fairly tense and difficult period for just about anyone.) However, it does reinforce the fact that when good people do nothing, evil flourishes. And those who do act, even when their numbers are small, can have a profound effect on an entire nation.

Beyond Hitler's Grasp: The Heroic Rescue of Bulgaria's Jews 3 1/2 stars (out of 4)

The Gods of Football Laugh

The gods of football bless then mock me. After allowing the Pittsburgh Steelers to upset the Indianapolis Colts, thus giving Denver a home game for the AFC Championship game (for which there was cause for much rejoicing), I find out today it is scheduled for the exact time I'm in church. The gods of football laugh.

Did I mention one of my friends has tickets to the game?

The gods of football laugh.

Did I mention they're on the 50-yard line?

The gods of football laugh.

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On a more serious note, I've combined the Bulgarian Memories blog posts into one continuous narrative here. I've renamed it Tsarovo. Enjoy.

Broncos 27 Patriots 13

A few years ago I wrote how my football watching habits had changed. It seems like every year since then the amount of football I watch on the weekends has decreased. This year I've watched the least amount of football ever. It's not that I don't like football. I love the game. But this year between writing the book, family, and other commitments, there wasn't a lot of time to spend on football. (The only game I watched this year was the Broncos Cowboy game on Thanksgiving Day.)

But even though I wasn't cheering them on, my Broncos played well this year and ending the season with a 13-3 record. Fortunately they had a playoff game on a day when I had nothing planned, I made sure I set aside three hours to watch.

I'm glad I did. If I had to pick one game to watch, this was the one. To cheer on the Broncos as they manhandled the two-time defending SuperBowl champions 27-13 was well worth it. I'm already looking forward to next weekend's game.