I Took Down His Late Wife's Photo Without Asking!

Note: You can see a video of this post here.

A viewer asks, “Abel, what if I took down the picture of him and his deceased wife on my own without his permission? I did it, and he didn’t say a word. Do you think he secretly resents me for it, or do you think he realized it was time to take it down?”

The only person who should be taking down photos or personal items connected to the late wife is the widower—not you. Now, you absolutely should speak up about how those things make you feel. But crossing the line and removing them yourself? That creates resentment, whether he says it out loud or not. You’ve planted a ticking time bomb in the relationship, and eventually it’s going to blow up.

What you should do is put the photo back up, apologize for taking it down, and let the widower decide when he’s ready to show he’s opening his heart to you. If he’s truly ready for a new relationship, those changes need to come from him—not from pressure or control.

You Can't Compete with a Memory

Quote from Dating a Widower: Starting a Relationship with a Man Who’s Starting Over.

Coaching Sessions Now Available

Once again I have good news to share. One-on-one coaching sessions for those who are in a relationship with a widower and widowers themselves are now available. This is a great opportunity to discuss issues and concerns that are unique to your relationship in a private, one-on-one setting. For women in a relationship with a widower, these coaching sessions are perfect for discussing:

• Whether the widower is ready to move on

• Possible red flags

• How to talk to a widower about your concerns

• Issues with his children/family

• Whether you should move in with a widower

• A recent break up

• Other related subjects

If you’re a widower, these sessions are great for discussing:

• Getting back in the dating game

• How to know if you’re really in love again

• Making room in your heart for someone else

• Issues with children/family who aren’t supportive of your new relationship

• The best way to let others know you’re dating again

• Other related subjects

Scheduling your coaching session is easy and takes only a minute. Click here to get started.

Quick Dating a Widower Update

Quick Dating a Widower book update. I’m just waiting on a few marketing/PR related things before I make the official announcement. It will happen later this week. But for those who are dying to read it can find it now by going to Amazon or B&N website and searching for my name or the title of the book. It’s available in paperback and all major e-book formats. Also, like my other books, I’m offering personalized copies of Dating a Widower through my online store. If you'd like a personalized copy, please note that I’m short on copies right now. Those who have already ordered copies should have them mailed out this week. If you order today there might be a 10 or so day wait until I can ship them. If you want it faster than that order it via Amazon or some other online retailer.

Finally, I’ve received several emails from readers outside the US and Canada wondering how they can get a copy. If you want a hard copy the best way is to order it via Amazon or my web store. Readers in the UK or Germany who have Kindles can download it as an e-book here (UK) and here (DE).