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A viewer writes, “Abel, can sons become a mini-wife?”
Yes—although in this case, it’s more accurate to call them a mini-husband. It’s not as common in widower relationships, but it does happen, especially with widows or after divorce. It starts when the parent starts treating the son like a surrogate spouse instead of a child. As a result, the son may become overly protective, possessive, or feel responsible for his mother’s emotional well-being and happiness.
That’s a heavy burden to put on anyone. And if it’s not addressed, it can create serious problems later in life and future relationships. The solution is the same as with a mini-wife dynamic: healthy boundaries. The parent has to stop leaning on the child emotionally and free them to live their own life—not fill the role of a spouse.
If you want to learn more, check out my video on mini-wives.