Once the late wife dies, the late wife's family are technically no longer his in-laws. So what's the best way for widowers to refer to her surviving family without causing offence to them or the woman the widower is dating? As Abel Keogh explains, the answer is a lot simpler than you think.
Mother's Day can be a hard for widowers and new woman in their life--especially if there are minor children living at home. What are an appropriate Mother's Day activities for the widower to participate in? What should the woman do if she feels pressured to participate in such activities but doesn't want to go? Is there a place to honor the new woman as a mother or step-mother?
In this video, Abel Keogh reads an email from a woman who feels pressure to visit the late wife grave on Mother's Day. He also imparts three important pieces of advice that will make Mother's Day go smoother for the widower, women dating them, and the widower's children.
When widowers make deathbed promises to their late wife, there are usually unintended consequences when they start dating again. Whether they promised their late wife never to marry or date again, never sell their home, or taking care of the kids, widowers are often racked with indecision and guilt when these promises get in the way of a new relationship.
In this video, Abel Keogh discusses whether or not widowers should keep deathbed promises made to the late wife and how widowers can find peace when they promises to the late wife run up against the new life they’re hoping to create.
Women dating widowers often wonder what they can do to help widowers overcome their grief and open their heart to a new relationship. Meanwhile, widowers may think that their grief never ends and struggle with starting a new chapter in their lives. What, if anything, can be done?
In this video Abel Keogh discusses 4 things widowers can do to take the first steps forward to finding the purpose and happiness to their life after losing a spouse. He also tells women things they should and shouldn't do to help widowers along this very personal journey.
Dating a widower you knew before he was widowed? What should you do if you have feelings for your deceased friend's husband? Are there certain red flags to look for? Is it common for widowers do date women the know for work or social circles before their wife died?
In this video Abel Keogh answers the questions from a reader who is attracted to her deceased friend's husband. He also discusses how common it is for widowers to date someone they knew before the late wife died and what, if any, red flags you should look for before dating a man you knew before his wife died.
This video is for adult children of widowers or those who have adult children who object to their father's new relationship. What do you do when you're widowed father starts dating soon after your mother passes away? Does it mean he didn't love his wife or that their marriage was a sham? What if you think the woman he's dating is taking advantage of him? In this video, Abel Keogh answers these questions and discusses some tips and tricks of dealing with the emotional situations for everyone involved.
Often widowers take their new love to the same restaurants, vacation spots, and trips as they went on with the late wife. Though sometimes this can be a red flag, it's usually a widower relying on old habits instead of making new memories. Is it possible to convince a widower to try new things? In this video, Abel Keogh discusses ways you can talk to the widower about making new memories, visiting new places, and trying new things that don't have the shadow of relationships past.
Many women break up with widowers only to have the widower come crawling back and asking for a second chance. What do you do when this happens? In this video Abel Keogh teaches you vital widower psychology so you can know if the widower has really changed or if he's looking to take advantage of you all over again.
With so many confusing emotions that come with losing a spouse and dating again, widowers can find it difficult to know when they're in love again. Thankfully, it's not that difficult for widowers to know when they've found someone that they can spend the rest of their life with. In this video Abel Keogh explains the sure-fire way widowers, and those who are dating them, can know that they've found love a second time.
There are widowers who say they have no desire to get married again. Are they telling the truth? What should a woman who’s dating or living with a widower do if she wants to get married but the widower says marriage is "just a piece of paper"?
In this Widower Wednesday video, Abel Keogh walks you through some steps you can take in order to evaluate how serious the widower is about his refusal to marry again and what you should do if you want to get married but the widower refuses to tie the knot.
I came home the other day and found my kids watching the Widower Wednesday video about where to bury the second wife. Find out their reaction to that video as well as my wife's opinion on the burial issue. And in the end you'll see how their thoughts and opinions gave me a different perspective on where to be buried.
Widowers often ask Abel what they should do, if anything, to honor their late wife on their date of death. Women dating widowers often ask what their place is in a day that can be emotional for everyone. In this video, Abel Keogh shares what he did on November 10, 2018--the 17th anniversary of his late wife's death. He shares this as a guide for what other widows and widowers can do to in hopes that it make make these anniversaries less painful and more fulfilling.
With all the problems women experience dating widowers, many have asked whether widows and widowers are more suited for each other. In this Widower Wednesday video, Abel Keogh discusses whether widows and widowers should date each other and what they both need to do if their relationship is going to succeed.
Sometimes widowers say the darndest things. Knowing what they're really saying can be difficult. But with a little widower psychology 101 you can know what a widower is really saying. In this video, Abel Keogh gives you the tools you need to interpret the following statements:
"I love you."
"I'm still grieving"
"I see a future, I'm just not ready yet."
"I'd tell friends and family about you but I don't want to hurt them."
Often widowers have double headstones or burial plots next to the late wife's grave. The question then arises where should the second wife be buried? With the widower and his late wife? Somewhere else? What if she wants the widower and her buried elsewhere? In this video, Abel Keogh walks wives and girlfriends of widowers through options and discuss the best way to come up with a solution that can please everyone.
For widowers telling friends and family that they're dating after losing a spouse is difficult. They're worried about the reaction of those they love and whether their new love will be accepted. Yet hearing that news from widowers is a lot better than finding it out from others or learning the truth on their own.
In this video Abel Keogh tells stories of the mistakes he made when letting family and friends know he was dating again as well as tips that can make breaking the news easier to those widowers care about so they no longer have to keep their new love a secret.
In this edition of Widower Wednesday, Abel addresses the following 3 questions:
What does it mean if a widower asks a woman what her long-term relationship goals are?
What to do with teenage kids who no longer want to participate in yearly remembrance rituals.
What should I do if I think my widower is cheating on me with an "old friend"?
Abel answers all of these questions while guiding you through some insightful Widower psychology so you can better understand how widowers think and their motivations behind their actions.
Not everyone is excited when a widower starts dating again. There's usually at least one person who will shun you at family gatherings, bring up the late wife during conversations, or does his or her best to drive a wedge between the widower and yourself. What's the best way to deal with these kind of people? In this video, Abel Keogh talks about why people act this way as well as 3 things you can do to break down barriers. It's a must watch for anyone who has friends or family who aren't happy that the widower has found love again.
On of the most difficult things widowers have to adjust to is taking over the chores that the late wife took care of such as cooking, cleaning, or finances. In this video Abel Keogh discusses the best way for widowers to learn how to do chores that the late wife took care of and, if they have kids living at home, how to get the kids to help pick up some of the slack.
Note: This video was scheduled to be posted on June 13. But due to an impending vacation, I forgot to post it here. Enjoy!
Since dating has drastically changed since widowers were courting their late wife, it can be very disconcerting for then to enter the dating waters. In this video Abel Keogh talks widowers through the good, better, and best way to find someone who's interested in dating and perhaps marrying a widower.