Widower Wednesday: A Book for Widowers?

Marrying a Widower is now available in paperback and all major ebook formats. You can read the first chapter here. Thanks to all those who contributed stories, served as beta readers, or otherwise helped make the book a great guide to tying the knot with a widower. I hope all those who read it find it helpful.


Now that Marrying a Widower is done, I’m finalizing the rest of my writing plans for the year. After taking a break from book-related writing for the next 30 days or so to deal with a big event, I’ll be finishing off a novel this summer then working on another non-fiction book that I’d like to have done by Thanksgiving. The non-fiction project wasn’t widower or relationship related and thought it would be a nice change of pace from my last two books. However, since I announced that Marrying a Widower was available, I received at least a dozen emails from GOWs, WOWs, and widowers asking when I’m going to writing a book about dating and moving on for widowers.

I’ve received requests like this from time-to-time but haven’t thought seriously about writing a book about it because it seems like there are lots of books on the subject already. If you search on Amazon you’ll see at least a dozen advice-type books written for widowers who are looking to date and start a new life. Besides, men are less likely to read these books or, at the very least, express an interest in reading them. I really don’t want to put the time and effort into this kind of book if there’s no real interest from widowers or anyone else reading it.

Maybe I’m wrong. Maybe the existing books on this topic aren’t very good. Perhaps there are lots of widowers out there who want something but are just keeping quiet about it. That’s why I’m writing this: I want to hear from GOWs, WOWs, and—most importantly—widowers about writing this kind of book. I’m more than willing to put off my current non-fiction idea and write a book specifically for widowers (a man-to-man type of book) about dating and moving on providing that I get enough feedback and interest in writing one.

What I’d like to know is:

  1.  What do you you think about existing books on the subject? Are they helpful? If not, what are they missing?
  2. What topics you would like to see included if I was to write such a book?
  3. For widowers I’d like to know your interest level in reading such a book and what perspective do you think I could add that’s not addressed in current books on the topic.
  4. From GOWs and WOWs, I want to know why you’d be interested in reading such a book. Is it something you’d find beneficial or is it something you’re looking at giving Ws simply because you might be frustrated with your current relationship?

Leave any thoughts you have in the comment section below or feel free to shoot me an email if you don’t want them public. I’ll take feedback for the next two weeks on this topic and let you know then whether or not I’ll make this book my next non-fiction project.