Losing His Wife, His Newborn Daughter, and Every Answer He Had

Enjoyed being on the This is My Chapter podcast. In it I discuss how I became one of the internet's first voices for young widowers — starting with an anonymous online diary that organically grew into a lifeline for thousands of men who had nowhere else to go. I also discuss my journey through grief, my disastrous first date with Julianna, and how I reacted when she told me "I won't play second fiddle to a dead woman.” It’s what rebuilding looks like when the old life is gone.

A Second Chance At Love - The Beginners Guide To Widowed Dating

I was recently on the Wake the F*** Up podcast where I discussed a second chance a love, forgiveness, and moving forward. Watch it below or also listen to it on Spotify or Apple podcasts.

This week on Wake the F*** Up, Alix and David sit down with Abel Keogh, a remarried widower who has successfully helped thousands of women know if the widowers they’re dating are ready for a serious relationship. Before we dive in to the rest of the episode, we want to give a content warning that this episode contains discussions about suicide as well as infant loss; topics which may be triggering to some of our listeners. Feel free to skip this episode if you need to, or come back when you’re ready.

To kick off the conversation, Abel shares his personal experience as a remarried widower and discusses his work in helping women navigate relationships with widowers. He has written several books, including “The Wife in the Next Life” and “The Ultimate Dating Guide for Widowers,” and hosts a YouTube channel (@DatingaWidower) full of helpful resources for the widower community, many of which have resonated with Alix. The three move on to discuss the challenges faced by young widowers, the lack of resources available to them, and the importance of setting boundaries with friends and family during the grieving process.

Later in the podcast, Abel shares his story of losing his pregnant wife to suicide and navigating life after her death. He talks about finding support systems that are understanding and helpful, as well as finding ways to cope with grief such as running or journaling. The conversation also touches on topics like loneliness in grief, shame around suicide deaths, redefining relationships after loss, and starting to date again. Abel emphasizes that there is no specific timeline for when someone should start dating again but cautions against getting into serious relationships too quickly before being emotionally ready. He also advises open communication about dating with family members in order to avoid feelings of betrayal or mistrust later on. Alix and David can relate! Both hosts share their own experiences with anger towards their late spouses and discuss how they worked through it over time.

Abel is the author of four dating guides, a memoir about losing his late wife to suicide and falling in love again, and co-author of a book with his wife, Julianna, about the struggles and questions they had to overcome to take their relationship from dating to marriage. His Dating a Widower YouTube channel contains over 200 videos and valuable advice for widowers and the women who are dating or married to them.

Marriage -- Is it right for me? (Podcast)

I was recently a guest on The Widower’s Journey podcast where we discussed marriage and when/if widowers should remarry. Listen below.

Is the old adage true? When there is a death in a marriage, women mourn, men, replace. Listen in as the Dean of widowed men, Herb Knoll, explores this question and many others during this podcast titled, “Marriage - Is It Right for Me.” Joining Herb are three widowers, including one widower who authored the Ultimate Dating Guide for Widowers, Abel Keogh. Learn what our guests say about marrying too soon, to gaining permission to marry from a widower’s children, pre-nuptial agreements, to a discussion about the risks associated with marriage soon after being widowed. What are the questions each widower needs to answer before popping the question? No topic is too hot to handle. Join us for this lively podcast.


Podcast: Why I Believe in Second Chances

Here's a raw and real interview I did with Finding Hope in Hard Times about the power of second chances. Lots things that I've never spoken about publicly before. Enjoy!

You can listen to the podcast here , listen to it on the YouTube link below, or listen to your show on other podcasting apps and websites: iTunes or Podcasts, Stitcher, Podbean, Soundcloud, YouTube, iHeartRadio, and even at https://resiliencetalk.airtime.pro/#.

Podcast: Dating Advice for Widowers and the Women who Date Them

One of the big concerns I hear from women in relationships with widowers is that they love my books and find them helpful but their widowers aren’t readers or don’t have the time to pick up a book. If that’s the case, maybe they’ll listen to a recent podcast I participated in titled “Dating Advice for Widowers and the Women who Date Them.”

What I enjoyed most about the interview is that the interview focused on discussing the needs of widowers, how widowers can know whether or not they’re ready for serious relationship, and how they can know if they’re really in love with the person they’re dating. Listen to the podcast here then, if you like it, recommend it to the widower in your life.

Enjoy!