Round Two: Widower or Narcissist

You asked for it, and here it is! After the incredible response to our last video, we're diving even deeper into the enigmatic world of widower issues and narcissistic problems. In this highly-anticipated sequel, we're cranking up the suspense and complexity. Prepare for a rollercoaster ride of emotions as we present even trickier scenarios that'll keep you guessing!

Can you spot the telltale signs? Is it a heartfelt journey of grief or a maze of narcissistic manipulation? Join me once again as we dissect these intriguing situations, providing you with the tools to navigate life's most puzzling encounters.

Grief Actually Ends and that’s Okay

I’m so sick and tired of the narrative that you never get over loss and that you carry it with you forever, as described in the picture below. It’s a lie that holds people back from moving forward with their life after loss. You are NOT an object. You can act. You can decide. You have the power to do for yourself what you CHOOSE to do.

Is there any other set of circumstances where we tell people that they can’t figure things out and start a new chapter? Do we tell people that lost a job that they’ll carry this loss around and never find employment again? To we tell divorced folks they can never move forward and be happy? When your child goes through a difficult time in school or life do we tell them they’ve got to carry this around for the rest of their lives? Of course not! So why do we do it with those who have lost a spouse, a child, a parent, or some other loved one?

We learn, we grow, and we heal from our experiences. Loss is no different. It’s doesn’t have to be a burden that we carry throughout our life. You can free yourself from your burden of grief and loss and be happy once again IF you want to move forward and do the hard work it takes to achieve it.

So next time someone tells you that grief never ends (and that’s okay), don’t buy into the lifetime of sadness they’re selling. Instead roll up your sleeves and use your God-given agency to move forward and do the work to lighten your burden. You, not loss, is in charge of your life. Move forward, act, and choose to be happy.

Are You Dealing with a Widower or Battling a Narcissist?

Ever found yourself in a tricky situation, wondering if it's the aftermath of a widower's grief or a classic case of narcissism?

Get ready for an engaging challenge as I dive into a game that'll put your instincts to the test! In this video, I'll present real-life scenarios, and it's up to YOU to guess if they're wrapped in the complexities of widowerhood or tangled in the web of narcissistic behavior.

So, grab your detective hats and join me on this thrilling journey of deduction and insight!

Why won’t widowers get married again?

From my YouTube channel comes the following question:

Hi Abel. I am married to my widower- but just curious about why losing a wife to death does stop some widowers [from] wanting to get married again, if they were fine to marry their first wife.

My answer:

  1. They're looking for companionship, not a relationship.

  2. They're with someone they don't love as much as the late wife.

#HardTruth

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