Widowers are usually ready to date again before their friends and family are done grieving. As a result it can be hard for them to learn that the widower is dating soon after the death of his wife. In this video, Abel Keogh walks widowers how to break the news to their family, the late wife's family, and their kids about dating again.
With all the emotional upheaval that comes with losing a spouse, it can be hard for widowers to know if they're ready to date again. In this video, Abel Keogh talks about how widowers can know if they're ready to date and, when they take that step, what pitfalls to avoid to make the experience as enjoyable as possible.
In order to start a new chapter in his life, every widower needs to reconcile their past and put the love and memories of the late wife in a special place in their heart. However doing this isn’t easy. It takes desire to start a new life, put the past behind you, and the courage to open your heart again. In this video, Abel walks widower and those who are dating them the steps one needs to go through in order to successfully start a new relationship that will endure until death do you part.
Years ago when I lived in Bulgaria, the most popular music group was a band called Авеню (pronounced Avenue). I sent a couple of tapes and CDs (yes, it was that long ago) of their music home and much to my surprise my then girlfriend and family liked the music. I lost track of the group after I returned to the States. A few years ago, much to my surprise, I found they had a channel on YouTube and had produced a lot of music over the years. A couple days ago, they released another album and posted one song from that album on their YouTube channel.
Seeing how I've never mentioned this band before, I thought I'd post some of their more recent music videos for those who are interested in hearing music from other countries. Most of the music, if sung in English, would probably find its way to an American soft rock station. Even if you can't understand the word, maybe you'll enjoy the music.
Sights, smells, and sounds are all things that can trigger memories of the past. When it comes to widowers these triggers can lead to an emotional breakdown. If you’re dating a widower who is prone crying when “their song” is played or where trips and nights out seem to trigger endless stories of the late wife, this video will help you navigate through these emotional landmines so that you can know whether or not the widower you’re dating is ready to move on.
Your widower wants to visit the cemetery to pay respect to his late wife. Is this a red flag or a sign he’s not ready to move on? Should you support him and let him go or even accompany him to her grave? In this video Abel Keogh talks about cemetery visits, setting boundaries, and what to look for in order to tell if these visits are helping him move forward or holding him back.
Most widowers start dating soon after the death of the late wife and usually well before they’re emotionally ready for a committed relationship. In this video Abel Keogh walks you through some widower psychology so you can better know if the man you’re dating is serious about your relationship or just using you for emotional support until someone better comes along. So, how long does it take a widower to fall in love again? The answer may surprise you.
Dating a widower who has adult children? If so, then you know the widower’s adult children aren’t usually thrilled about their father’s new relationship. In the third of a three-part series dealing with widowers and their adult children, Abel discusses:
- What a widower should do if you’re not invited to family events
- The best way to deal with children who act out toward you at family events
- How to handle adult children who are still grieving and don’t want to see their dad start a new chapter.
Dating a widower who has adult children? If so, then you know the widower’s adult children aren’t usually thrilled about their father’s new relationship. In the second of a three part series dealing with widowers and their adult children, Abel discusses:
- How do deal with children who feel entitled to the widower’s estate
- What do to if his kids think you’re a gold digger
- The best way to handle his attention seeking adult children on social media
Dating a widower who has adult children? If so, then you know the widower’s adult children aren’t usually thrilled about their father’s new relationship. In the first of a three part series dealing with widowers and their adult children, Abel discusses:
- What to do when the widower puts his adult children’s needs before yours
- The best way to get kids who have failed to launch out of the house and out on their own.
Part 2 drops next Wednesday.
Moving in with a widower can be risky. It can be hard to know whether he's ready to move on or just looking to fill the hole in his heart? The truth is most of the time, moving in with a widower ends in disaster. The woman makes most of the sacrifices while the widower does nothing. This video discusses red flags you should watch for and, if you decide to move in, things the widower needs to do BEFORE you make that commitment.
This Widower Wednesday video isn't for everyone. Each person has their own views about sex and when it's the right time to become intimate with someone you love. I'm not going to tell you when you should or shouldn't sleep with a widower. That's a personal decision. The three things I discuss in this video about sex and intimacy with widowers are:
1. How Widowers Think About Sex after Losing a Spouse
2. How Setting Intimacy Boundaries will Weed Out Widowers Just Looking for a Sexual Relationship
3. Things Widowers Should do to Make Sure Their Late Wife Isn't Part of Your Intimacy
Dating a widower comes with a unique set of challenges. Some of these challenges come from the widower's minor children (defined as under 18 and living at home). In the final of a three part series, Abel Keogh discusses the following issues related to a widower’s minor children:
- Your role in celebrating events like the late wife's birthday.
- What to do with pictures and mementos of their mother
- Tips and tricks for dealing with kids and grief.
Dating a widower comes with a unique set of challenges. Some of these challenges come from the widower's minor children (defined as under 18 and living at home). In the second of a three part series, Abel Keogh discusses the following issues related to a widower’s minor children:
- What to do if the widower’s kids feel like they’re being demoted by you
- How to take on the role of “mom” without alienating the widower’s children
- Communication strategies for your and the widower when discussing changes with his kids
Part III will be posted next week.
Dating a widower comes with a unique set of challenges. Some of these challenges come from the widower's minor children (defined as under 18 and living at home). In the first of a three part series, Abel Keogh discusses the following issues related to a widower’s minor children:
- When's the optimal time to meet the widower's children?
- Is it a red flag if the widower feels guilt for dating and not being with his kids?
- The best way to deal with minor children who constantly misbehave and won't respect boundaries.
Part II will be posted next week.
Torchbearers. It seems like there’s always at least one person who constantly talks about the late wife or floods social media with photos and memories of the late wife. While dating a widower can be hard enough, torchbearers can ruin even the strongest relationships. In this video, Abel Keogh discusses ways both the widower and the woman he’s dating can effectively deal with those who choose to live in the past instead of living in the present.
Most issues that come with dating a widower stem from the fact that the widower is still grieving and not ready to form a solid relationship. However, there are things women do that turn the widower off to wanting to take the relationship further. In this video Abel discusses widower psychology 101 and some simple you can do and behaviors to avoid when you are dating a widower.
Many women meet a widower at work, school, or church. As they get to know each other better, they may exchange flirtatious banter or the widower may behave in ways that makes the woman think he's interested in her. However, he won't take the step of asking her out for coffee or a more formal date. The question then arises whether YOU should ask the widower out. In this video I'll explain why asking a widower out could harm your future relationship—even if the widower wants to date you.
Unfortunately, most relationships with a widower come to an end. Some times the woman initiates the break up but more often than not, it's the the widower who ends things. If you're widower has ended the relationship, this video will help you understand what he's thinking, the best way to get over the heartache, and whether or not you should get back together if he wants a second chance.
One of the bigger issues when dating a widower is what should be his relationship with his late wife's parents. How much time should he spend with them? What should be his relationship with them after we get married? What should I or he do if they don't like me? While there are no clear answers on this subject, this Widower Wednesday video gives you the guidance both you and the widower need to make the best decision for your relationship.